"The
only way some of us exercise our minds is by jumping to conclusions…"
~
Cullen Hightower
"As
you think, so you become.....Our busy minds are forever jumping to conclusions,
manufacturing and interpreting signs that aren't there."
~ Epictetus
"As
human beings, we suffer from an innate tendency to jump to conclusions; to
judge people too quickly and to pronounce them failures or heroes without due
consideration of the actual facts and ideals of the period."
~ Prince
How true are
the above-mentioned quotes?
Isn’t it common for us to jump to a conclusion
on any situation or judge someone without knowing the full story?
How often has
it happened to you? How often you end up doing the same to others?
But why? Why
do we do that?
The answer is
very simple, our brain has been trained to do that.
‘How?’ some
might ask.
Well, the
answer is, look around you. You will find your parents, relatives doing it and
you have been seeing and watching them do that since you can remember and we
humans are known to imitate and learn from others behavior.
For example,
if we see a young boy and girl standing in the middle of the road, chatting
animatedly, what’s the first thought that comes to your mind? What shameless
girl is that, talking with a boy standing in the middle of the street or maybe
they are having an affair..tch tch…
For the boy it
might be different, wasting time running behind girls instead of studying etc
etc.
First of all
why, why bother having such thoughts about people we don’t know. Even if we
know both or either of them, chances are that maybe they accidentally bumped
into each other after a long time, maybe they are classmates and are catching
up or just saying ‘Hi, Hello’.
Another one
from my personal experience when sometimes I express my doubt about a child,
people bluntly say on my face “Just because you have a child with special needs
doesn’t mean every child you see has a problem”.
That’s another
thing when I am proved right, but well, it doesn’t matter.
But my concern
is why jump to conclusions and judge a person without knowing the background?
Instead, jump
into the water and learn swimming, jump from a cliff and learn bungee jumping
or paragliding.
Jokes apart,
why not train our mind to focus on our goals rather than assuming things and
spoiling our peace of mind and sometimes relationships. Many times these
assumptions and judgments create a crack in relationships.
What do you
think?
How many times
have you experienced your parents/friends jump to a conclusion on a particular
situation without allowing you to explain the facts or without knowing the
truth?
Or maybe you
have made an opinion about someone without knowing the background and then
realized that you were wrong?
Do let me know in your comments below.
