Since a few days, we have
been reading about a wife from Mathura who has been visiting health centers
carrying her husband on her back whose leg has been amputated. She has been
going through this ordeal as they require submitting a disability certificate
so that they can avail free wheelchair from the government.
After reading this
and some of the other instances in past and also from my personal experience,
where we see how hospitals, health centers, and people treat disabled people,
only one question always crosses my mind…Why so much apathy towards disabled
people?
My husband always says out
of fourteen years most of our time is mainly spent either in therapy or waiting
outside an OPD or in a doctor’s clinic or some hospital.
But in these fourteen years
one thing I realized, India is not a place for people with special needs.
NO …it’s
not. Period.
Here you don’t get
facilities nor is an easy place for such people or for their parents. It’s a
big long, curvy road with lots and lots of potholes and road blocks.
Just a few months back we
had gone for our daughter’s disability certificate renewal.
This certificate is a proof that a child/person has a certain disability and
therefore s/he can avail certain benefits.
First of all these
certificates are not issued at all medical or health centers. You have to go
government-run hospitals in your district that have been given the authority to issue those
certificates after thorough verification and checkup of the patient. These
certificates are issued on a particular day of a week/month and these centers
have been issuing it for ages.
Statutory
warning…these places are not for faint-hearted people.
Inspite of so many
years, there is no proper waiting area for people who come from all over the
district, early in the morning and wait in a queue. Come rain or hail (in
India, hot blazing sun), parents with their special needs children or adults with
the disability have to wait in open space for hours for registration and
getting required forms.
That’s step one. Then
step two depending on their disability they have to go to different directions
(here departments) for further processing. And these can be anywhere in the
vicinity. That takes a couple of hours. Then after the form is issued, there is
another queue for getting signatures of the civil surgeons. Then submitting the
form and getting the certificate takes another couple of hours…
Consider one reaches the
center at 8 am and all this process starts at around 10 am, which will complete
until lunch time depending on availability and blessings of the electric board
and internet connectivity along with other factors.
Can you imagine, the
parents with special needs children, people on crutches standing in the rain or
scorching heat since early morning, then made to go from one place to
another???
Moreover, the place stinks.
Imagine a hospital, where a person is supposed to get healed, stinking of urine,
has junk dumped here and there, has narrow, congested corridors, no name of
cleanliness and sanitation and not to mention the pathetic staff. There is not
even a proper place where children can be fed or changed if they soil
themselves.
In some centers, one has to
make multiple visits. First for getting forms, then registration, then they
give an appointment when you have to take the child for examination and then
finally to get the certificate.
I need to ask the
Government of India and the hospital staff why such step-motherly treatment
towards them?
There is no proper source
of information nor are the facilities cheap which everyone can afford. Most of
therapies and treatments are costly which only people with the sound financial
background can opt for. What about lower strata of people???
Though the government has
now some schemes like Niramaya, which give some
amount of money but frankly, it's not sufficient. The amount one gets from the
mediclaim is much less than what an average child’s medicines and therapies
cost.
Even then these schemes are
not known to all. Some doctors or therapists don’t share the required
information with parents for reasons known only to them.
Why? Why so much apathy
towards special needs children and their family?
Not to mention the
attitude of some doctors, some of which I had already written about (Life's Challenges and Hospital-place of healing or mental
torture).
Many doctors make the
patients wait for hours. I am not blaming them saying that they are doing it
purposely. They might be having some genuine reason for being late. But I had
been to a doctor who unfortunately lives in my complex and told me to reach his
clinic at 11 a.m. but he himself left the house at 12.30p.m. Now, what to
say???
This is not just one case.
Many instances I have seen where the doctor comes to OPD/clinic (if s/he is
staying nearby) only after their staff informs them about ‘N' number of
patients have arrived.
All these are not figments
of my imagination but based on personal experience and true incidents too.
I know you will say
‘Doctors are humans too’. I am not denying it. They might have had late night
emergency call or any other genuine reason. But can anyone spare a thought for
us parents and our kids who are already going through social, emotional, mental
and physical upheaval?
We don’t want sympathy or
pity or even empathy… all we want our kids to avail facilities and treatments
which would help them lead their life without distress and with dignity. Is it
more to ask?
Like we say “All five
fingers of our hand are not same”, similarly not all doctors are
same. I have met some doctors who reach their clinic/OPD well before
time and offer concessions to patients who have financial constraints whereas
some think that we parents are some money minting machines.
I have no hatred for
towards doctors but am just bringing out the plight of people and families of
children with special needs go through.
Some will say “What’s the
big deal about having to wait for few to couple of hours”…
Nothing wrong but does anyone know, taking
care of a special needs child takes a toll on the caretaker also. Most of the parents
themselves suffer from back pain, spondylitis, blood pressure and what not. Imagine what will standing
or sitting in some uncomfortable position for hours with our squirming and squiggling children do to
their backs?
Why can't people from this noble profession do
something about this and change the way this system works and do something for
our children with special needs?
This is really very disheartening and I'm glad you wrote about it. I have tweeted your excellent blog post.
ReplyDeleteThank you Kalpanaa :)
DeleteDefinitely a topic that needs to be written about and discussed. Thanks for raising your voice.
ReplyDeletethank you Dola.. hope it reaches to concerned officials n they atleast look into it
DeleteHow sad that there is so little compassion towards people with disabilities. As if they don't have enough to contend with! Thank you for bringing this to our attention. My next a to z post is Hearing Loss, and how we can deal with it or prevent it.
ReplyDeleteThank Shirley...people going thru it they only know what they go thru everyday
DeleteVery sad to read about such things. Unfortunately, a fact of life. Having rules and laws is one thing. But to feel for other people, especially for those who are not as lucky as we are, is another thing. Hopefully things will change.
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hopefully..wish things change for better Pradeep
DeleteOMG...😦😦😦
ReplyDeleteWell-written Aps. You actually took me to the situation and state you guys must have been into. Could so feel for you and our darling Peru. But thats just about a miniscule of what you and other parents of kids with special needs must be going through. Agree, India is not the place. It's kind of hoping against hope. But still wish forums such as these help, and possibly voices raised reach right places.. Until then, Power be with you 😍
ReplyDeleteThank you Kavita... ya wishing for the same..hope that some changes happens in the system n it helps us and our kids
DeleteSad state of affairs, taking toll on adults and kids who should be getting better privileges to ease their difficulties. Have you thought of tagging the ministers through social networking sites, hashtags. It is worth a try. Though not an immediate change at least attention will be called upon the situation in public. With you ❤ in trying to bring a change.
ReplyDeleteya did that today after reading your comment so lets see..thank you Reshma <3
DeleteIts not just hospitals its everywhere, bus queue, train reservations, schools, everywhere the people with special needs are not given the due acknowledgement.
ReplyDeletetrue... even public places are not wheel chair accessible..
DeleteI have faced this everywhere. Not just at the certificate issuing hospitals, but at the schools and colleges and even the university. There are no clear rules about anything or else no one seems to know the rules.
ReplyDeleteWe have been trying to look for alternative life skill and vocational courses for Anmol, but while there are facilities and provisions for the physically handicapped, there is nothing for the mentally challenged.
It is a tremendous battle to even get writers or time concessions for exams. And if you are thinking of looking for a job which they can handle, forget about it as no one wants to even give them a chance.
:( It's extremely saddening to hear about your first hand experiences, Aparna. You're right in saying that India is not disability friendly. Period. I wish things get better, but I have little expectations from the government. Any government that takes charge, BTW. More strength to you and other caretakers/parents/guardians.
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